What a week. Just plain to tired to think. Which means typing is out of the question.
Em is calm. Her abscess is not as large but very firm an blood red. It started to open up yesterday then stopped. Happy about that.Erin would of been alone with her. From what I understand I could be pretty gross when it opens>! On the up side, she is eating well and still fighting with Pete. Good sign.
Lets get on to dad. Dementia is such a trip. You want to get so angry but you can't. He doesn't know what he is doing. Though sometimes I think he does.
He is addicted to sweets. We can not keep a cake in the house, he will just fixate on it. If you were to put it in front of him he would eat till he got sick. And then try to put the rest in a paper towel and hide it in his room.
Well yesterday I cleared out his room. Cookies,crackers, and yes CAKE !!!!
We talked it over last nite. And I tried to explain his job is to stay well. And he has to work with me. I hate nagging and he he hates to hear it
The last thing I want to do is make him feel bad and/or embarrassed. So this time I included Brian, and how I have to get after him, diabetes and sweets. So they also have to work together on their diets.
Now after all of this he still forgot to brush his teeth. Oh well!
This conversation may not be remembered after last nite. But you do not know, so you keep trying.
Humor for the week, my allergies were so bad on tuesday i could not smell,taste, ect... There was 1/4 piece of a slice of cake, Brian told dad how yucky I was. I was looking forward to the cake. He said how nice, Then ate it !!
I just sat there wanting to cry. How lame !!
Friday, April 30, 2010
Saturday, April 24, 2010
What a day!
I had 2 hours devoted to me today. Can you imagine. I still think it was a dream.
I ran away to Melissa's. There she did my hair.Color and trim, then my eyebrows. I felt wonderful driving home.
I stopped at starbucks got a great cup of coffee.They all know me and loved the hair.
Got home kid loved my hair and even my dad noticed.
Then walked in husband. He does not realize to grow out your hair you need to trim it. Then there was the color. By the time he was done with me I was just staring at him. Kid was pissed.She could not understand why I did not respond.
First I was in a state of shock. Second, some things are not to be prolonged. He was rude, hopefully he knows it.( maybe not).
When someone is that upset it does no good to act like them.
Then on to the bunnies. The 2 males are still acting up. I have to take turns with them being out of the cages because they fight so much. But when one is out it pees and poops near the others cage. What is with the men in my life.
Dad was the only calm one today. He was acting bunny police. Making sure the guys did not eat wires and shoes. He had a great time watching them play.
*****Side note***** Em looks great! She takes her shots so well. She is running every where, eating well. Greens and baby food. I wonder if this abcess will ever go down in size?
Well thank you for listening to me. And you know what?????
I LOVE MY HAIR !!!!
I ran away to Melissa's. There she did my hair.Color and trim, then my eyebrows. I felt wonderful driving home.
I stopped at starbucks got a great cup of coffee.They all know me and loved the hair.
Got home kid loved my hair and even my dad noticed.
Then walked in husband. He does not realize to grow out your hair you need to trim it. Then there was the color. By the time he was done with me I was just staring at him. Kid was pissed.She could not understand why I did not respond.
First I was in a state of shock. Second, some things are not to be prolonged. He was rude, hopefully he knows it.( maybe not).
When someone is that upset it does no good to act like them.
Then on to the bunnies. The 2 males are still acting up. I have to take turns with them being out of the cages because they fight so much. But when one is out it pees and poops near the others cage. What is with the men in my life.
Dad was the only calm one today. He was acting bunny police. Making sure the guys did not eat wires and shoes. He had a great time watching them play.
*****Side note***** Em looks great! She takes her shots so well. She is running every where, eating well. Greens and baby food. I wonder if this abcess will ever go down in size?
Well thank you for listening to me. And you know what?????
I LOVE MY HAIR !!!!
Thursday, April 22, 2010
good am
Well no alarms were needed this am. The rain took over. Did it pour.
It was a long day yesterday.1st Em at the vets,then a day of work ending with Em again. In between I pulled a muscle in my back.( how I did it is any ones guess). Bad enough I was crying trying to take care of the guys and their cages.
My husband and daughter came through. The cages are connected to pens. They had to be cut apart.So cleaning, disassembling, and moving into the house was an event.
I am so happy with my vet, she is a very concerned about Em. She called later with ideas to help. So we increased her meds, and are doing hot compresses.
I am very happy also with Em she just laid there and held her own hot towel.Picture posted.
She is sitting here on the sofa with me this morning looking much better.
Well on to dad. He really has no clue how bad Em is. He knows something is up, he just laughs. This is not to be taken as not caring. Dementia comes out in many ways.
Parkinson's obviously affects the brain. The shaking every one sees is just the beginning. If it was only that.
They are now saying that people (dad) can not process facial expressions or the tone in your voice. So you may be pissed off while he stands there staring at you with a blank face or laughing. Your first reaction is more anger. How dare he laugh at me. Then you remember he has no idea your angry. His brain could have just said "wow look how much fun she is having"
Another 10 deep breaths!
Dad has another issue that drives me insane. FOOD /////////
He either attempts to eat an entire cake at one sitting or complains the pasta is to tough. This is after munching on a bag of Doritos. Go figure.
So last nite I here him in the kitchen complaining to Brian the chicken legs had to many bones(Now Brian is taking those deep breaths).
So I quickly joined in and complained how tough the creamed corn was.
It was a long day yesterday.1st Em at the vets,then a day of work ending with Em again. In between I pulled a muscle in my back.( how I did it is any ones guess). Bad enough I was crying trying to take care of the guys and their cages.
My husband and daughter came through. The cages are connected to pens. They had to be cut apart.So cleaning, disassembling, and moving into the house was an event.
I am so happy with my vet, she is a very concerned about Em. She called later with ideas to help. So we increased her meds, and are doing hot compresses.
I am very happy also with Em she just laid there and held her own hot towel.Picture posted.
She is sitting here on the sofa with me this morning looking much better.
Well on to dad. He really has no clue how bad Em is. He knows something is up, he just laughs. This is not to be taken as not caring. Dementia comes out in many ways.
Parkinson's obviously affects the brain. The shaking every one sees is just the beginning. If it was only that.
They are now saying that people (dad) can not process facial expressions or the tone in your voice. So you may be pissed off while he stands there staring at you with a blank face or laughing. Your first reaction is more anger. How dare he laugh at me. Then you remember he has no idea your angry. His brain could have just said "wow look how much fun she is having"
Another 10 deep breaths!
Dad has another issue that drives me insane. FOOD /////////
He either attempts to eat an entire cake at one sitting or complains the pasta is to tough. This is after munching on a bag of Doritos. Go figure.
So last nite I here him in the kitchen complaining to Brian the chicken legs had to many bones(Now Brian is taking those deep breaths).
So I quickly joined in and complained how tough the creamed corn was.
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
Em is sick
My daughters little baby is sick. She has a lump on the right side of her face. She looks good bouncing all around the living room. She is eating.
We go to the vet this am.
Off we go......
Back from the vets Em has an abscess in jaw. I can not afford a $400 open and drain.So I started her on 28 days of antibiotics. (shots).
The vet seemed a little doubtful that it will work. I am being very positive about it.I gave them allot of fresh hay, carrots,corn on cob and cilantro. Then covered them up all warm and toasty.
They hate the rain, they miss the sunshine.
We go to the vet this am.
Off we go......
Back from the vets Em has an abscess in jaw. I can not afford a $400 open and drain.So I started her on 28 days of antibiotics. (shots).
The vet seemed a little doubtful that it will work. I am being very positive about it.I gave them allot of fresh hay, carrots,corn on cob and cilantro. Then covered them up all warm and toasty.
They hate the rain, they miss the sunshine.
Monday, April 19, 2010
9:14 at nite
Good evening, yes it is nite time. This will be short tonite. I thought I would reintroduce myself to you. I am 55, married, and I have 3 kids. Meg 23,Erin 13 and Bill 83. Meg is away at school and Erin is almost in high school. My husband Brian is a carpenter.
Bill has Parkinson's dementia, so we live with confusion most of the time. It does make for an interesting Household.
We live in a beautiful S Calif city. The weather is great, the beach beautiful and the neighbors cool.
We work hard. When we are not working we are home people. This actually works out well now days. Who can afford to go out. The cost of dinner and a movie is almost as much as rent. Add a club, and you don't eat for a week. (great for diet)
Little extras we have, 2 rats, 2 turtles, and 3 rabbits.
Now I don't think I have to tell you who takes care of the pets. This job usually goes to a parent.I have a poll off to the side, lets see what you think.
Another big thing is I have been sober now for 1 year and 4 months. I think this is pretty amazing. Life, especially mine is pretty rough when you are drunk or with a hang over. We started taking care of Bill with 1 month of sobriety under my belt. What was I thinking ?
Well I have survived and so has my family. We I work early tomorrow so I must end. Have a great nite and be safe ! PS: I hate capital letters !!!!!!!
Bill has Parkinson's dementia, so we live with confusion most of the time. It does make for an interesting Household.
We live in a beautiful S Calif city. The weather is great, the beach beautiful and the neighbors cool.
We work hard. When we are not working we are home people. This actually works out well now days. Who can afford to go out. The cost of dinner and a movie is almost as much as rent. Add a club, and you don't eat for a week. (great for diet)
Little extras we have, 2 rats, 2 turtles, and 3 rabbits.
Now I don't think I have to tell you who takes care of the pets. This job usually goes to a parent.I have a poll off to the side, lets see what you think.
Another big thing is I have been sober now for 1 year and 4 months. I think this is pretty amazing. Life, especially mine is pretty rough when you are drunk or with a hang over. We started taking care of Bill with 1 month of sobriety under my belt. What was I thinking ?
Well I have survived and so has my family. We I work early tomorrow so I must end. Have a great nite and be safe ! PS: I hate capital letters !!!!!!!
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Face book
Well I just posted my link on FB to my friends. Well we will see what happens. I am having issues with trying to follow people. I managed 1. So if anyone out there has answers for me I will gladly except them.
Lost it
I lost it last nite. I was so tired. I don't know why? 6 loads of laundry, driving to OC to the bank and taking care of 3 people. In between cooking 3 meals and taking care of pets.
So last nite when dad looked at me and said he could not pick up a wet towel I freaked.
He went to use a plastic bag, then a towel he thought was clean that was used on the rats, to pick up the towel. I tried to tell him it was just water on it. He looked at me with that deer in the headlite glare. Then he said he did not know who's juices were on the towel. With that I came back to reality. This was not my dad being lazy this was Parkinson's talking to me.
There are times dad appears so with it you forget he has dementia. But when it shows you are just taken aback. I still get angry. Why did we not notice the signs earlier. Meds could of been given and maybe it would not have gone so far,
So last nite when dad looked at me and said he could not pick up a wet towel I freaked.
He went to use a plastic bag, then a towel he thought was clean that was used on the rats, to pick up the towel. I tried to tell him it was just water on it. He looked at me with that deer in the headlite glare. Then he said he did not know who's juices were on the towel. With that I came back to reality. This was not my dad being lazy this was Parkinson's talking to me.
There are times dad appears so with it you forget he has dementia. But when it shows you are just taken aback. I still get angry. Why did we not notice the signs earlier. Meds could of been given and maybe it would not have gone so far,
Saturday, April 17, 2010
Sat AM
Good morning, up early today as usual. This appears to be my only time for being alone. This does not always work. One day I feel I will be getting up at 3 am to accomplish this. But then they will know what I am up and get up at 3 also.
Ok so now you are wondering who is they. 1 husband who I love deeply,1 13 y/o daughter which I love just as much. Though being a 13 y/o I want to kill at the same time.Then there is my dad--a wonderful man who has the luck at 83 of having Parkinson's dementia.
Oh we then have to toss in the rabbits and turtles. There is one more 23 y/o away at school. Just as wonderful. If she gets up at 3 am we know the world has stopped rotating.
So this is my life for the moment. Not a bad life mind you. But one that keeps your brain spinning 24/7.
I have started this blog to help myself and maybe others. One thing I have found is there are always others like you, and they need a blog to. Humor I have found saves us. Now days we so need allot of it.So if you can grab a bit of it here by all means do so.
Well now I need to sit and think where should I go with this? For I know I do have 1 reader.
Ok so now you are wondering who is they. 1 husband who I love deeply,1 13 y/o daughter which I love just as much. Though being a 13 y/o I want to kill at the same time.Then there is my dad--a wonderful man who has the luck at 83 of having Parkinson's dementia.
Oh we then have to toss in the rabbits and turtles. There is one more 23 y/o away at school. Just as wonderful. If she gets up at 3 am we know the world has stopped rotating.
So this is my life for the moment. Not a bad life mind you. But one that keeps your brain spinning 24/7.
I have started this blog to help myself and maybe others. One thing I have found is there are always others like you, and they need a blog to. Humor I have found saves us. Now days we so need allot of it.So if you can grab a bit of it here by all means do so.
Well now I need to sit and think where should I go with this? For I know I do have 1 reader.
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